There’s a new line of Caseta switches which actually look good and are traditional.

Can’t be bothered to replace mine and barely use them anyway. Just use HA and automations for the most part

I use Lutron. But they use a proprietary protocol (with local control however)

I have a plex setup too, using Prologue.

I never listen to audiobooks using Plex, and prologue manages listening state just fine for me.