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  • You’d need to motivate rich people to go along with the balkanization, and you’d have to do it before they could be arrested for “corruption” or disappeared…

    Also, to get this movement going you’d have a counter to the massive spy network that gives the feds to target and drag people out of their homes before they can cause trouble…

    I think you’re more likely to see rural areas secede, because those guys are Pro-Trump (decreasignly), but also very anti-federal in their bones. Most liberal coasters, driving the economy, think a USG is pretty swell.










  • I’m a monogamous hetero cis man, and I’ve never had to advocate or filter for a polyamorous relationship. There is a pro-forma declaration of monogamy pretty early when I’m dating, but I feel like the contract has already been written and communicated in a million small and subtle ways before then, and from my limited experience, that the contract is non-negotiable.

    I’m guessing there are subtle signals we put out that indicate where we stand on things, and maybe those signals mutually filter people out before a conversation even needs to be had, so maybe we’re all working with self-selected population bias…

    That said, the common complaint of straight cis women in dating is that there are a lot of fuckboys out there, who are just interested in sex, and surely the men quickly realize that being upfront about what they want is disqualifying on a near population-wide level, so they quickly learn not to communicate what they really want.

    Hetero pessimism, in a nutshell.



  • Well, this is from a straight male perspective and the issue here is a straight women, so maybe it’s the blind leading the blind, but basically straight women want to be the only woman their male partner is interested in and anything that threatens that is extremely destabilizing. Confessing you want to fuck her sister, someone who is in your life and very possibly available, and also very possibly a relational threat (because there’s a lot of commonality already), would be planting a seed of doubt in her mind. On top of that, because the damage is obvious, such a question raises the possibility that the male partner is either cruel or callous or inconsiderate or really desperate to sleep with the sister.

    Anyway, it’s good that this is an old comment, because someone argue that women can be just as sexually free and promiscuous as men, to which I say, yes, absolutely they can and it’s fine if they are, but they’re much less likely to be.