I think I have an inner voice, but that’s clearly not a voice I hear at all, that’s the speech part not resulting in mouthing anything. It’s mostly true for foreign languages (like english) but less so for my native french.

If you already own a domain name, you could use Cloudflare tunnels using cloudflared (it’s free).

Proxmox with Debian LXC containers. The most natural transition from Raspberry Pi OS which is a Debian flavor

Un-smarting our home is indeed my current concern if I would pass suddenly. It’s mostly usable manually but most switches would continually try to connect to WiFi and mqtt. I rather hope have my teenager son be able to take over if need be. My passwords could be accessed by my wife anytime but I’m not sure she realises it, it would be to be documented.