Proxies aren’t bad they are just dated.

Ironically the big problem with proxies is really that software doesn’t support them properly, usually due to lazy or unknowing devs.

You two are stuck in a feedback loop. It’s a really tough spot to be in until you realize it and work on it.

Anxiety in a hostile environment (or the perception of being in a hostile environment) will be met with reciprocal hostility. And then things escalate, and then repressed, and it continues. You two are fanning each others flames. You may be more alike than you realize or care to admit.

Good luck finding a therapist. Remember it’s a lot like dating…you may get lucky on the first meeting, you might find yourself completely incompatible with them, or you may find someone that you’re comfortable enough with to build a good rapport with over multiple sessions.

You talked an awful lot about your kid.

How are you doing?

Your 18yo sounds like a grown up version of my 4.5 year old. Honestly if you said the arguments were about potty training we’d be talking about the same person.

How were they, when they started living with you full time, with regards to pottying? Difficult? Regressive? Headstrong?

I ask because how you are doing, because I started seeing a therapist for my own struggles with parenting. And it’s probably the best thing I’ve ever done. It really gives a chance to reflect and get honest constructive feedback on how I approach and handle interactions and discipline and whatnot. Most importantly, how to deal with stresses of parenting a difficult kid and not criticize yourself too harshly at every setback.

Please, if you haven’t already, consider a therapist for you, preferably one who specializes in family issues.

I pretty much only look at All and somehow like a good third of my feed is Star Trek stuff. Mostly memes, and mosty TNG/DS9.

I somewhat enjoy it because I’m not really a big trek fan and it reminds me what it feels like to not be “targeted” by an ad. But ironically, it had the effect of me starting to put on TNG at night.

Id feel weirdly awkward and embarassed seeing my computers innards posted in a YouTube video, and I don’t know why. Like if my middle school yearbook photo showed up on Facebook.

That actually happened to me recently. My grade school best friend posted a pic from a field trip like 30 years ago and I’m naming off every person in it like I just saw them yesterday…then I see one person in it and I’m like “who the fuck is that hideous looking child? Is that me??? Shit that’s me”

Dude Germany is literally the reason we have computers.

People love to give Turing all the credit, but he wouldn’t have needed to build it if not for the Germans.

I’m not sure, but I think this is a FOSS, Selfhosted, O365 replacement-in-a-box. Well, helm chart.

Pretty cool IMO.

I would suggest something compatible with Ubuntu Touch and a separate portable keyboard. There are some cool universal/bluetooth ones out there…foldable, compact, with device holder, etc.

Are physical keyboards a must? What about something like a Fairphone running Ubuntu Touch?

Or, for that matter, what is driving the need for Linux? Could it be satiated with an android device and/or x2go to a self- or cloud-hosted Linux desktop VM/VPS

You are conflating layer 1 technologies (shielded or unshielded twisted pair, CAT3 through CAT7) with layer 2 technologies (Ethernet).

Layer one is the physical media itself. Alternatively some modern-day L1s are MoCA, Powerline, WiFi, fiber, and of course, 1000BaseT, whose standard specifies CAT5e or higher STP.

Layer two is how those bits get sent in that media. Ethernet is, by and far, the most familiar L2.

And then layer three is where we get to networking and start talking about IP addresses (IP being the most familiar L3).

Sorry thought it was well-known enough without additional context (talking about switch in gaming community). I was going to mention this was 2020 for added context because ACNH launch was exceptionally huge because of Covid lockdowns.

Sharing isn’t the problem. 4 year olds aren’t the most responsible or capable of keeping track of small objects.

I can’t tell you the places I’ve found Odyssey, and that’s his favorite game. And 3D All Stars is completely missing, which I’m still really upset about.

They gonna fix sharing digital games with family members? Or do I have to keep cartridges around so my 4yo can pop them out and lose them?

Crazy to think that when I bought a lot of my digital games, I wouldn’t have expected a second kid who wants to play them on a separate switch. Now my saves are all fucked because he’s gotta play them on my profile on the second switch. I bought that switch because my wife and I both wanted to play ACNH, which was also bullshit. And then I got stuck with the Lite because we couldn’t migrate her island over, which was also bullshit.

There’s no reason we can’t share digital libraries with households. Amazon does it.

I wouldn’t say it’s more toxic, but it certainly is a different atmosphere.

Coming from my curated subs on reddit to mostly browsing All-top on Lemmy, it certainly feels like Lemmys audience is surprisingly more authoritarian-conservative than reddit, despite the very active Linux, FOSS, and privacy communities.

Happens to me all the time with my Networking, Fortinet, Ansible, and Cisco subreddits, and that’s exactly why I’m hesitant to purge and delete my account.

That and I haven’t found comparable communities here.

Used laptops are the shit for basic web browsing.

I just found a Lenovo T470s at a flea market (Flea@MIT, for anyone in the Boston area), 6th gen i5, 2x4GB RAM, and 128GB NVMe, with charger and W10 license…for $100.

I bought a 1TB NVMe and a 16GB SODIMM for like $80. Dual-booting Fedora and W10 (fresh-installed…I don’t trust someone else’s installation). Since getting it (Fathers Day), I only needed Windows one time (Linux Fire Toolbox wasn’t working too well for me with my Prime-Day Kindle Fire).

As a plus, the battery life is supreme as well, and upgrading the ram and NVMe were stupid simple, as they are on most the Lenovo T-series.