If you're modeling relational data, it doesn't seem like you can get around using a DB that uses SQL, which to me is the worst: most programmers aren't DB experts and the SQL they output is quite often terrible.
Not to dunk on the lemmy devs, they do a good job, but they themselves know that their SQL is bad. Luckily there are community members who stepped up and are doing a great job at fixing the numerous performance issues and tuning the DB settings, but not everybody has that kind of support, nor time.
Also, the translation step from binary (program) -> text (SQL) -> binary (server), just feels quite wrong. For HTML and CSS, it's fine, but for SQL, where injection is still in the top 10 security risks, is there something better?
Yes, there are ORMs, but some languages don't have them (rust has diesel for example, which still requires you to write SQL) and it would be great to "just" have a DB with a binary protocol that makes it unnecessary to write an ORM.
Does such a thing exist? Is there something better than SQL out there?
I don't think that explains it.
If we're talking about extensions that cover custom features then obviously those aren't supposed to be standardized because they haven't been widely adopted.
If an implementation is missing a feature then that's a shortcoming of that particular implementation, not SQL's.
If an implementation screws up and has non-compliance qwirks, that's a bug in the implementation, not a problem with SQL.
Take SQLite for example. It explicitly does not support static, rigid typing, and claims it's a feature. However, SQL supports static typing and other implementations leverage that for performance and cost gains. Additionally, SQLite also keeps a list with a summary of all the SQL features it purposely does not implement.
SQLite is pretty popular. Does this mean SQL is lacking in any way? Is the SQL standard "lacking" because it supports
ALTER TABLE foo ADD CONSTRAINT
even though SQLite does not? Or is this a problem caused by an implementation failing to comply with a standard?