I don’t want to be some white collar stiff. I don’t want to work in a place with ties. I don’t want to be a tie guy. I don’t wear them to weddings, because that’s not me.

Nothing against tie people. It’s just not me.

  • MajorHavoc@programming.dev
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    19 days ago

    Others dress comfortably because they want you to think they don’t care if you’re impressed.

    That’s me!

    And then there are people who dress comfortably because they don’t need to impress anyone.

    I’m working hard toward becoming this person.

    I asked him what the difference was, and he said it’s the cost of the tie they aren’t wearing.

    This tracks, and correctly places me in the middle category. I bought my particularly nice ties during a particularly nice sale. (The ones I gave away because I don’t wear ties anymore.)

    Then in the meeting he made a bigoted joke and killed the entire deal.

    That’s an aspect of why I don’t wear ties anymore. I don’t feel like I’m great at signaling and being an ally, but at least I’m not dressed like an asshat.