Shout is really effective in the moment at interrupting a process. I hate shouting, too, but sometimes it’s necessary (and sometimes I lose my temper, but that’s unintentional and is followed by an apology). Teaching a child empathy is a slow and constant process where the results aren’t always immediately apparent.

You also don’t want the punishment to be emotionally cruel. Like I wouldn’t suggest you take her beloved toy away to replace something stolen. I wouldn’t probibit a child from attending a party or experience that may not happen again. Parents sometimes feel like “something bad” needs to be emotionally devastating, or rigidly absolute. I had a friend in high school who missed his prom because he got a bad grade on an exam.

Regarding the apology being sincere, of course it’s better to make an effort even if she isn’t sincere, but the point is to make her actually feel bad for what she did, not because she was punished but because she understands how it made someone else feel. Some lessons aren’t learned the first time, and the vast majority of people will make the same mistake more than once.

It’s entirely normal, and not a failure of morals or parenting, for young children to lie and steal. She’s learning how to be a person in a brain that’s been conditioned to survive above all else. All morality is built on empathy, and all empathy is learned.

Anger and fear are not the best choice to get her to stop. Punishments and yelling will just train her to hide her bad choices from you. I would absolutely not involve third parties like the police. She is learning how to be a person from you, and if you threaten her with outside societal punishments, she will stop trusting that you are the best source of morality.

It’s important to build trust. She needs to be comfortable telling you when she has done something you won’t like. She should understand and believe that things are better when she makes good choices.

Taking away desserts works as a punishment because she is losing something good. Natural consequences are best because her developing brain will make stronger connections between cause and effect, but you want her to learn to feel empathy for her victim. I wouldn’t ask her to give up something that isn’t

The best response is to have a conversation with her about how it feels to have something stolen from her. Maybe share a story about something that was stolen from you, and ask her to identify the feelings you would have felt. You want her to internalize the feeling of guilt, because that’s the voice in her head reminding her to ignore the desire to take something she wants.

If she thinks, “I want this, but the police might come get me” then the desire voice will whisper “then we better not get caught!” If she thinks “I want this, but taking it will hurt someone” then it makes no difference if she hides the crime from her parents. She might still steal and then lie avout it because she is ashamed, but that’s where the trust pays off. Eventually, you want her to generalize that empathy to think “I shouldn’t steal because this makes the world a worse place.”

TLDR: Don’t yell, definitely don’t threaten with the police, talk with her about feelings and help her understand how it feels to have something good taken away (like dessert). Also, encourage her to apologize, but only if she sincerely feels sorry. You’re not a bad parent, and she’s not a bad kid. People aren’t good or bad, it their choice that are good or bad.

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A trial attorney? I could see it she wanted to be like a corporate attorney or real estate or something, where your character as a person isn’t relevant. How is she going to empanel a jury without potential jurors having preexisting feelings about her trustworthiness? “Yeah, she seems sincere, but remember that time on her reality show where she was faking tears for sympathy?”

I don’t know her, or how competent she would be at trial, and anyone can be anything they want to be. But also, recognize that choices have consequences. Maybe trading dignity for fame and fortune means you don’t get to live any dream you like.

Ok, so the coroner and his brother had a hidden room where they kept decomposing bodies, some as long as 15 years. This was discovered and he resigned his position as coroner. A new coroner was appointed.

That coroner’s office also, separately, planned a community event for a Halloween party. The planned Halloween party would have had zero corpses, and the creep who kept the corpses wasn’t invited to attend (probably?). Cancelling the event had nothing to do with safety, in spite of what the unnecessary quotes in the headline would suggest.

That’s fair. I’d go all the way back to Nixon, and you’re right that we are at the end of a long path they have been marching us down.

But I don’t believe they were Nazis. I believe they were selfish, myopic, cruel, ignorant, bigoted, and often simply evil. Not Nazis, though.

Right, my point is that maybe it’s Freudian, or maybe it’s just a brain fart. The larger issue is that we don’t know for sure. Like, if Pelosi had made the same mistake, you could safely assume she isn’t a Nazi. Boehner is a douche canoe and a shitbag bigot, but we’re fairly confident he wasn’t a Nazi. Hastert was a criminal and a pedophile, but he wasn’t a Nazi. Gingrich, Ryan, Michel, none of them Nazis.

Mike Johnson? Might be an actual Nazi.

Yeah, that sounds likely.

I mean, it’s very obvious that he meant to say “we’ve defended against…” The real problem is, you aren’t defending against it now! You are defending that evil ideology now. Nazis are in the Republican party, in positions if power and influence, and there is no way to be sure who isn’t a Nazi.

So for anyone who sees the gaffe and thinks “Oh, he just misspoke.” Yeah, probably. But recognize that it’s a problem that we even have to question it in the first place. Whether House Speaker Mike Johnson is a Nazi or not, he clearly did not intend to admit to being a Nazi. THE PROBLEM IS THE FIRST PART OF THE PREVIOUS SENTENCE. It’s not the gaffe.

Yes, but will they be able to capture the true narrative complexity of asking a desk toy to provide randomized platitudes and admonisitions? How can they please the built-in hardcore fans without alienating the newcomers who don’t have an encyclopedic understanding of the extensive lore? Will they tackle some of the more problematic canon events that have aged poorly in a more enlightened society? Or will they gloss over those moments and modernize the deep mythology on which the intellectual property is based and risk abandoning the edge that made it popular in the first place?

Concentrate and ask again

Fuck.

No, his mom is a love interest for Picard, and he has a lot of affection for Wesley, but they are not related.

I think that’s the AI function that would be most valuable to me. Just have an assistant on my phone building a catalog of resources and tasks on my to do list and creating priority lists. “Can you help me remember where I left the miniature paints?” “I’m afraid I can’t do that. You haven’t finished spackling and painting that spot in the bathroom.”

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My personal mental illness is that I won’t be able to finish a project because I can’t find the tool or component I need that’s squirreled away in a bin, but I won’t look for it because that would mean a whole day of organizing my storage shit, and I won’t buy a new one because then what was the point of hoardingstoring the one I had for all this time.

No press is bad press, I suppose. Doesn’t make me want to buy their coffee.

Same, except we didn’t go see it because of the 3 hour runtime.

I remember meeting a character actor who had bit parts in a lot of things. He was instantly recognizable, but nobody knows his name. He told me the worst part is that because he’s “famous,” people expect him to be rich. Like service workers expect $100 tips at restaurants and hotels, and he’s like “I’m here for a job application.”

It’s crazy we’ve never had a Metroid/Mega Man crossover game. Like consider a team/squad shooter RPG with Samus, Mega Man, Zero, X, Roll, and you run around collecting upgrades and weapon types. I feel like the two universes would work well together.

This is one of my favorite stories about petty malicious compliance. Brownlee knew that welding the cover in place was a fools errand and a waste of time, but a superior insisted it be done to contain the blast. Brownlee acquiesced but also installed a high-speed camera pointed at the cap to capture exactly how stupid the idea was. Turns out, the high-speed camera was not high speed enough, because the cap vanished between frames, meaning it was either blown off at a speed that would escape Earth orbit, or it was instantaneously vaporized.

I like imagining the meeting where Brownlee presented the findings on the cap experiment.

Like imagine if you could get away with that at your job. Some pompous middle manager insists on a stupid idea, and you’re like “OK, we’ll do it, but we’re also going to set up instruments to detect precisely how badly this will fail, just so we have it on record.”

The researchers are also bots.

Yeah, I use it for personal link sharing for Immich. Sharing photos is a breeze.