

I’m another father putting my hand up here for going through the same stuff. Life isn’t like the movies most of the times you don’t have an epiphany moment where it all snaps into place and you turn in to some super hero father. You just go day by day getting through all the shit (god so many diapers) and the pain and the stress and one you realise you’ve all survived and you’re a family.
My wife went through the same feelings of inadequacy because she had to pump too. She couldn’t get the little ratbag to latch. One practical thing that I did was talk up how awesome it was for me that she was pumping because it let me take so feeding times. I told her that by letting me be the parent who’s feeding the baby gave the baby time to bond with me.
Bumping the Lamp. In Who Framed Roger Rabbit, Roger and Eddy are wrestling in a room and Roger (a toon) bumps into a ceiling lamp which starts to swing. Sounds simple and then you realise that Roger is drawn in and as Eddy is pantomiming a wrestling match the effects team managed to swing a ceiling light from off frame and made it look like a simple brush of a cartoons ear.