You don’t know that I already haven’t so still not addressing the point about being less wasteful and just a lame attempt at diversion.

this is an expensive hobby just FY

Oh yay, love hearing how more plastic is being produced and then discarded for no other reason than ‘a hobby’.

You added flour(and fat) so this tends to stabilize the milk(it’s referred to as ‘roux’ in French). If the sauce was already thickened the milk will have less chance to curdle. Also if you’re cooking at a low temp it is better and if the milk is fresh and higher in fat it’s less likely to curdle.

Fuckload better than ‘you need to pay a subscription just to play the game you already paid for’ cuz oh you launched it from their app.

No no…it’s going to be much worse than that.

It’ll be a subscription just to play the game you already own.

With making ramen you soak them in the broth overnight. They are frigging delicious. Salty as though

also men with men relationship violence adding to the numbers. https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-29994648

Not even men?

I think the toxic masculinity is another subject aside from domestic relationships involving man on man violence and how it’s given a pass (especially on tv) . Beavis butthead /jackass type stuff. At least that is more in context of what I’ve seen it meant to be towards.

Domestic abuse however should be considered regardless of gender. It would be better to drop the gender out of it entirely when discussing it. We should acknowledge anyone can be a victim or even an abuser. it’s actually very common that even both are abusers but that often doesn’t get addressed other than being ‘one cancels out the other’ or ‘you’re both bad for eachother’.

I have a feeling that only scratches the surface of what is abuse. It’s a whole family dynamic. And I would prefer it if gender wasn’t part of the discussion It really slants it like you say.

I’ve seen people blame the victim of abuse simply because they aren’t the abuser and ‘should know to leave’ when it is actually a very dangerous situation they are in.

And in some of the programs on the subject of addiction it’s actually more common that you’ll get both parents are actually abusive however our way of being programmed (like in the programs you’re saying) we might side more with who shares our gender. Or worse: start thinking the person who is being abused deserves it because they are somehow annoying others into abusing them. Or even wants to stay for the abuse and people lose respect for the victim for not leaving.

In Australia (more so in New Zealand) they are at least a decade behind on what is going on in America when it comes to addressing abuse dynamics. They still struggle a lot to get cops to take abuse seriously and very behind on the training. Lots of these programs even believe that abusers think victims have evolved to take a hit. I dunno, some sort of messed up biology involving whomever or whatever the gender is they believe is the more common and whatever the gender of victim is most common.

sure, ok in worst case scenario let’s say there might be some fucked up narratives like that out there amongst why an abuser abuses, I’d like to see that (or any idealogical bases for abuse) challenged towards the individual abuser rather than confirmed to the victim.

You’re going to get that anywhere and could go off with the same argument that everything is poisoned. To hate it you’re supporting it’s a movement is both a sum and to help serve individual requirements. Claiming bad actors is just a part of it. Helping others is another. You will get that in all movements. To define it so you can have some batting practice is reductive.

You’d spend your energy more wisely being additive with issues that need to get addressed. And focus on that.

someone getting helped isn’t a dig on someone else. That post is not addressing the issue. it’s nothing more than lateral infighting. Getting yourself heard isn’t poking holes in someone else’s life saver til you get what you want. That’s just being a psychopathic bully.

Hating women isn’t how to support men. Your post is toxic. You are toxic.

and got co-opted by a bunch of psychopaths into the fucking terrible movement it is today.

Interesting. So In this theory of yours about how movements work, who exactly owns and dictates the movements? The ‘gov’ment’? The neighbour you hate? A woman calling the cops on someone? celebrities? People with opinions and jobs? A person with a magaphone/picket sign? Someone posting online?