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Cake day: June 18th, 2023

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  • The bottom line is: Am I doing it wrong or is this it for a while until he can stay awake while changed and fed? Is it normal? I feel like I’m just drugging a child to sleep. Looking for any input. Thanks.

    I said it somewhere else but kids, newborns especially, do very few things: eat, shit, piss, burp and sleep. So yes you are doing things right. In fact, enjoy how easy it is now because it won’t be for long. And there is no harm talking to a newborn. If it is just you and the wife in the house and you take care of the baby in shifts then unloading a stream of conciseness can be therapeutic.

    when I’m doing the war crime of changing or swaddling

    I’ve helped care a number of babies and still can’t swaddle one for shit so I’m jealous. Probably why my burritos always end being eating with a fork/spoon.

    Kid falls asleep 1min after he latches without fail and my wife is super anxious about not breast feeding but she pumps out a surplus of milk. He wasnt getting enough sustenance after birth but he’s ravenous on the bottle. 2-4 oz every feed maybe 2.50z average.

    Your child is a classic “lazy eater”. They can and will latch but doing the work afterwards ain’t happening. He wants the easy feeding of a bottle and unless you wanna starve him then give it to him. He is still getting all the benefits of breast milk and your wife is still doing the work of pumping so no shame there. Make sure you keep the negative Nancy types who talk down on women who can’t/don’t breastfeed away from your wife.