why not ani.social? the local feed is just anime and manga

And that’s exactly the ambiguity I was trying to get at with my last paragraph.

I’m kind of surprised I got downvoted while contrarian “source?” comments got lots of upvotes. In all honesty, it feels bad. I am not sure how I said anything anywhere near offensive that deserves disapproval, but being contrarian seems a lot more purposely meant to piss off and still meets lots of peoples’ approval.

But even still, I have gone and assumed bad faith or at best, an attempt to be funny and make people laugh through what is still in the end just contrarianism. I do not think it is possible they are genuinely asking for a source because I think we’re making claims based on general observation of the world, things that do not need to be cited, like “the sky is blue” or “things fall when you drop them”. Just look up and see (or trust the wealth of statements talking about the sky’s blueness if you are (color)blind). Perhaps I’m incorrectly assuming bad faith here based off of a trend of seeing contrarianism, and I’m incorrectly extrapolating that trend here. It is very ambiguous. I really do not think I am wrong, but given that we’re literally talking about the difficulty of determining good vs. bad faith engagement it feels a little arrogant to not acknowledge the possibility that I might be wrong.

I think the key part is whether it’s being done in good faith or bad faith. Sometimes I ask a stupid question on Lemmy, but because I am honestly curious and not trying to get into a fight, and I usually accept the reply to me and don’t take it as an invite to get into a debate, I think people can tell I’m not sealioning.

If I replied “source?” for your comment right now, I’d be trolling. I almost certainly know that it is a bad idea to discourage sourcing information, and that should not be something I need a cited source for. That would probably be sealioning. Someone asking for a source on a meme I posted is probably genuinely curious and not sealioning.

And as per usual, judging intent can be difficult, especially when people (including me) come into a forum with my own sets of biases, pieces of knowledge I have that I incorrectly assume that everyone else knows, and absence of knowledge that others incorrectly assume everyone else knows. So people who are not sealioning might get mistaken for it just because they want a source on something they do not know that most people do. I see where you are coming from.

(I did not create this community, and I am not a moderator of this community, but I’m usually the only one posting anything. Can we change that?)

Thanks for disclosing, usually it is a community’s creator posting it here although there are exceptions, so I assumed you made the community.

This is very much not my lane, but props to you for trying to single-handedly keep what seems to be a non-harmful community going, and good luck with attracting new contributors.

Wow, you identified the entire reason I have avoided meme communities online. Glad to know I wasn’t alone in that. Thanks for making this! Now I can add some online humor back into my day.

Eh, there were some nice things on Reddit. We don’t have to be a clone but we don’t have to resist everything that looks like them. I’m explicitly here because I wanted a forum-like social media that wasn’t Reddit; I wanted a Reddit replacement. I would like to leave certain artifacts of Reddit behind, but I do like actual Reddiquette (that admittedly did not get followed in practice, it does not here either) of upvoting good contributions to a conversation (including opposing opinions) and reserving downvotes for people who come in with hostility, spam/off-topic posts, etc. I liked communities there where I could talk about things I was interested in.

Trying off of lemmy.world, I approve. Best wishes!

I inaccurately assumed the way I expressed myself would be interpreted as “when I was 12, I saw images that were reposted frequently on Instagram that contained text attesting to hating small talk,” and did not have it in my mind as a possibility that my comment would be taken as a statement on my current age. I made an inaccurate assumption. I am currently over 21.

Although when I was 12, although I didn’t talk about my age or lie about it in text discussions I did still use websites that were only allowed to be used by those 13 and up, or those 18 and up. I typed very similarly to the way I do now. For all you know I am a filthy liar and actually just a 12-year old with a good grasp of English, attempting to seem more credible (and evade any possible TOS violations and account bans) by telling you I am over 21 years old ;)

I suppose I’m coming from being 12 and seeing very reposted images with text about “I hate small talk, can’t we talk about something meaningful” on tumblr and Instagram, and from when I did still follow ADHD and autism communities on the internet, and when I browsed Reddit in general, and saw rants about small talk… used to seeing the word “hate” in conjunction with it. Sorry.

I also agree, different strokes for different folks :) It’s okay to not enjoy small talk, and it is also okay for me to enjoy it.

Sorry! I guess it just did not federate over to me. If you check my instance’s copy of this it says “trash snacks”

I love information dumps.

I also seem to be the rare internet user who does not hate small talk. I’ve never really seen a problem with it and now thanks to the internet the one problem I see is “unpopular amongst internet users, may make them unhappy.” Wonder if this is an internet/real life split, or if everyone but me hates it but smiles and pretends in real life so I think more people are fine with it than actually are. I guess I interpret it as a person sharing their genuine thoughts. Sometimes I look outside and think “it’s a nice day!” so why wouldn’t other people vocalize their thoughts amongst the same lines? I guess I see it as a common shared experience and attempt to connect over something “easy” like that since a lot of people will agree that yes, it is a nice day. (If you don’t, some might take offense but I’d love to hear why you disagree—invites more discussion!) Then again, I’m also an extrovert, so I’m just like “Yes! Social interaction!!!”

Stuff like this, not sharing in a lot of common complaints about neurotypical interaction, makes me feel too neurotypical for the neurodivergents, but I also do have ADHD and autism and my fair share of social struggles so I’m also too neurodivergent for the neurotypicals. For what it’s worth if I know you don’t like small talk I’ll try to remember and accommodate that.

You may want to edit the title, it says “trash snacks”

If the world had a population of friendly vampires I wonder how many more people the donor pool would gain…

Thank you for helping with your friend’s transport. When I was in college I had to rely on friends who had their own cars with them to get me to the donation center.

I have seen one get used, and played in a musical theatre pit that called for a theremin player who could also play trumpet. That’s the only relevant stuff I have to say. Best wishes with the community!

You’re absolutely right! I figured I’d glom onto something established first, but I’d rather have an active mod especially since this does not seem to have grown too big. Do I need to sign up for your community? I remember moderation being… iffy between instances, especially if it’s an Mbin/Lemmy jump.

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I think the perceived overlap is often because popular DDOI and NSSF are often also YDMGU

Probably a smart idea to change the name. Best wishes!

I checked it out to see if it would be a nice alternative to !upliftingnews@lemmy.world. It might be better on less political content but there is still usually someone being… less than uplifting and more negative (even if it is on topic) in the comments with a ton of upvotes rewarding the negativity because it is also a popular negative sentiment. RIP.

(And no, I do not downvote them just because I really dislike the content. It is not against the rules, I do not think it’s untrue, it is not spam, and I don’t think it quite goes as far as uncivil jerkiness, so I leave the votes alone and just stay out of the comments and now I am posting a warning here.)

Advice if that stuff brings you down: follow the community and keep out of the comments, that is what I currently do on !upliftingnews@lemmy.world.